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Risky Business: Life According To TMI Tuesday.

Risky Business header shows person abseiling down a rock face with clear blue sky behind them.
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This week’s TMI Tuesday questions caught my eye, and as it’s been a couple of weeks since I took a long lunch break, I thought I’d get started with one of my favourite weekly memes. Life, it seems, is a permanently risky business, but doesn’t that make it more exciting? (Spot the woman who was born with adrenalin in her blood.)

1. What is the most ambitious work you’ve done in the past five years?

I think creating this space is the most ambitious work I’ve done in the last five years. When he tasked me to start a blog I was a complete technophobe. Yes, I could turn a screen purple by hitting play on a media player. No, I couldn’t attach files to emails without having a meltdown. But I could write, and he had faith in me so I tried. It’s not always been plain sailing, but I have been able to learn a lot, and even impart knowledge on others, including a security post which featured on Blogable.

2. What is the biggest risk you’ve taken in your life?

Over the course of my life I’ve gotten myself into many risky situations, taken chances on different directions and made mistakes. But each time I have stayed true to me, and followed my own path. The choices I’ve made along the way may have challenged me but I don’t regret a single thing. Never has anything felt too much, especially once I’ve navigated the route to success, or failure, in a task. Saying that, I do take many leaps of faith. And this has only been encouraged (or perhaps facilitated) by Sir. So perhaps the biggest “risk” would be handing myself over to a man, trusting in him and letting him take the reins on my growth. Especially at a time when I had no reason to trust anyone.

3. What do you do when no one is watching?

I live my life authentically and with integrity, whether people are watching or not. And depending on the audience I wouldn’t do certain things. (Enthusiastic, informed consent is key for me.)

I used to hide my emotions away, only let them out when it was just me. But I’ve learnt over the years that this only empowers the negative feelings. Having trusted people I can turn to when life is too much is amazing. Whether that’s a tearful video call, a snotty hug or an exchange with Sir. But I have to trust the person I share that side of me with. Too many people in the world will happily take your vulnerability and exploit it, so it’s not about doing these things while no-one is watching, more like choosing my audience.

4. How do you get attention?

For me there is a big difference between being an exhibitionist and wanting attention. I’m not the most comfortable with being under the lens, so to speak. So I hide away as much as possible. When I am in a situation where I am going to get attention I’ll generally put myself into the middle of things in a striking way, with a hood on. I’m sure I’m as ‘guilty’ as the next person of posting (what can be seen as) thirst traps on twitter or my blog, but while these do get attention, that isn’t the reason behind sharing. It’s purely to post a picture that made me happy, and spread some kinky sunshine! Or, more often than not, they help me to illustrate a point I’m attempting to make in the post it’s attached to.

5. Who do you stalk on the internet?

This question got me thinking. I’m not sure that I can say I stalk anyone online. If I’m meeting someone new I’ll see what information I can glean in the search results, but that’s just good sense when it comes to personal safety. And I am quite skilled at finding out… stuff… that the other person may not want me to. However, I have friends who are more intent on keeping tabs on exes, or poly-partner’s new love/lust interests. They spend so much time trawling through websites, digging for dirt and jumping to conclusions that I think my own brand of online stalking is pretty low key. (And certainly better for my mental health.)

Bonus: What did you watch last night?

Every evening I get to enjoy a little TV with my oldest. His current choice is Richard Osmand’s House Of Games. I love how his mind works, and I’m genuinely thrilled to see him racking up the points. I, on the other hand, am less than adept at getting the right answers. But it’s good fun trying!

Other than that I did sit in my yard, read my book and watch the moon and stars pass over my little postage stamp of sky. Bliss.


How to play TMI Tuesday: Copy the above TMI Tuesday questions to your webspace (i.e., a blog). Answer the questions there, then leave a comment below, on this blog post, so we’ll all know where to read your responses. Please don’t forget to link to tmituesdayblog from your website!

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Risky Business: Life According To TMI Tuesday is my latest addition to the TMI Tuesday series. You might enjoy me Getting In Trouble For TMI Tuesday too?

One comment

  1. 1. You have come a long way indeed.

    3. “…more like choosing my audience.” Ahh, yes!

    Every needs some kinky sunshine in their lives. 🙂

    Bonus: This sounds very calming.

    Thanks for sharing.

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