“But feelings can’t be ignored, no matter how unjust or ungrateful they seem.”
In life I try not to be ruled by my emotions.
But what I have learnt over the last few years is that feelings are there to be felt. Historically, when I have shut them away, I have felt like I have no right to feel the way I do, but this has inevitably led to detaching from myself, from me. The dip in my mental health that follows is not for the faint-hearted.
Since growing into myself, making friends and learning that vulnerability is a strength rather than a weakness… I have become quite indulgent with every sensation that courses through me.
Well, that’s not a bad place to be.
I read about toxic positivity recently. This led to me seeking clarification from SWL. “I always try and find the positive, the silver lining, the lesson. I didn’t think that was a negative, but am I, in fact, showing toxic positivity?”
I’m told that the difference between that and my sunshine is that one dismisses the negative entirely. I acknowledge the pain, the dark and the discomfort. Then I find a way to make it less overwhelming.
So, while I agree with Anne Frank in that feelings can’t be ignored, even the “unjust and ungrateful” ones, I would take it a step further. I believe that feelings should be acknowledged, embraced and then used as a springboard to the next stage.