The title of this post is a slightly adapted quote by Victor Borge, a musician and comedian born in Denmark in 1909 before moving to America in 1940. To quote him fully “laughter is the closest distance between two people” but I didn’t want to limit myself to tales of laughing in pairs. I guess laughing with friends and fuck buddies is similar to sex in that regard. Great alone, great with one person, and great with more-than-one. Perhaps this is why, when I saw the kink of the week prompt, I thought I really did hope I could find the time and the words to share here.
Laughter is a key component of most of my playtimes.
That’s right, regardless of what kind of session I’m enjoying. “If it isn’t fun what is the point?” This was Sir’s response when I apologised for having giggled mid scene. Wayyyy back in our earliest days.
For me it’s a valuable way to communicate my consent, whether during intense impact, rope or waiting for the fun time with friends to begin. As the header image shows.
Aware of spoilers I don’t want to give anything away about this particular evening.
Suffice to say that Northern Man’s submissive put me through my paces at the start of last year. Beginning with latex, a straight jacket and… Much laughter. Oops, sorry CurvyGal! Being at your mercy was a very serious situation which certainly did not call for chuckles to spill out.
While laughter isn’t a kink for me, not having fun or being allowed to laugh is a huge turn off. An anti-kink if you like. There’ve been scenes with D-types who didn’t appreciate the humour of being naked and whipped mercilessly with an audience. A little mid scene re-negotiation led to satisfying scenes all round. However, I should definitely come with a giggle-warning, just in cases.
That’s not to say I’m not having a good time if I’m not giggling.
If something’s going wrong I’ll communicate. And sometimes immersing myself in a scene can take a little more concentration. It’s hard to laugh and focus at the same time. Sometimes I might look a little serious, but that’s OK too. My love of BDSM is in no small way down to the fact you can slide through all of the emotions and still have an amazing time.
Laughter is such an important part of my life now, across all aspects of my world. You can find lots more fun times under the tag Laughter tag. By searching in the sidebar many more will come up too.
From the story of how the barefoot sub became the woman she is today, to toy reviews, with a hefty dose of contemplation, a sprinkling of erotica and a LOT of nudity in between, you can be sure to find something to tickle your fancy at A Leap Of Faith.
I agree. If it’s not fun, what’s the point? And besides, laughter releases such lovely endorphins! It only makes things better in any kind of relationship, I think. (Provided you are laughing *together* and not ‘laughing at’ — THAT is a whole nother [unwelcome] thing!)
Exactly this! Across the board, laughter (WITH another person) brings us closer together. And, for some, being laughed AT, within a consensual, caring dynamic, can be fun too. But that’s not for me.
I am rubbish at serious scenes! There is always something that happens that makes me snigger or giggle a little…ok, lots! Kink is fun, where is the fun in taking that away?
I feel you on this one. A couple I scened with at an event were being deadly serious, attempting to be threatening. I just giggled while they scratched their heads in puzzlement.
“not having fun or being allowed to laugh is a huge turn off.” Yes absolutely. I so agree with this.
Molly