Is Nudity My Happy Place?

This morning I’m continuing with my A to Z April challenge 2022 with more questions from Mrs Fever. Today I’m discussing my relationship with nudity, my thoughts on reading in order, a selection of my happy places and what is quintessential for me. I’d love to hear your answers to the questions, let me know in the comments.

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How do you feel about nudity?

Do you have different thoughts/feelings about your own compared to others’?

It might come as no surprise but I love being naked. After all, I’ve shared so many pictures on here of me in the buff, or close to. It’s no secret I’m an exhibitionist, and like to flash my breasts for the scavenger hunt, in no small way to promote body positivity (because we, as a species, are very good at hating the skin we’re in) but also because I like to feel the breeze on my skin. I also embrace nudity at kink events, where permitted, especially in scenes. And will often be found in lingerie or latex where naked flesh isn’t appropriate.

Is it just the desire to put myself on display that leads me to nudity?

Goodness, no! It’s comfort too. I love to clean the house nude, and cooking was a favourite past-time. Until I moved to my current home where the kitchen is overlooked by two neighbouring homes. In my lounge, with the same aspect but more helpfully curtains, I practise yoga and pilates as nature intended. Whenever possible. And don’t get me started on naked starfishing, reserved for those nights when I’m childfree.

As the mum of two boys I don’t feel it is appropriate to walk around the house starkers. I have nakedness on display in my bedroom, but I don’t parade myself around the house. Their paternal influence has instilled body shame into both boys. I also fear their exposure to his objectifying of women (non-consensually). It’s my aim to nurture a healthier viewpoint in those young men, gently and respectfully.

What of others’ nudity though?

It was my first fetish event that changed my relationship with my body. The beautiful naked bodies of all different shapes and sizes opened my eyes to what is attractive. This alternative observation confirmed everything Sir had shown me about my own body, and I’ve no idea if I’d have made that realisation without the daring, sexy folks baring all.

Saying that, I wouldn’t choose to see everyone naked. As an adult I can make that decision, and exercise my preference as required. Simple! Much like social media I can move along. However, unless I’m side swiped by someone being gratuitously sexual in their nudity, in an inappropriate setting, I don’t think I could say I find it offensive.

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What is my opinion on reading/writing a series in order?

I don’t know that I have a strong opinion on this one. I’ve not found a book series that I want to read all of very often, and when I have I’ve read them in order so I can understand them. Mervyn Peake’s Gormenghast trilogy wouldn’t have made much sense had I started on the third book. And the first book was the hardest to get through so I’m glad it was out of the way early on. Had I read two and three I may not have bothered completing the first, but it is a glorious piece of fiction, albeit dry!

But in the blogging community there are some incredibly talented writers who update stories weekly with the next chapter. Jerusalem Mortimer does this particularly well, and a recent series Droit De Signeur (which I hope isn’t quite finished yet) shows the way that each chapter can stand alone, and so doesn’t need to be read in order. But then, if you start at the bottom and read in order the work, as a whole, is even better.

I also enjoy writing in order, telling the story of how I became the woman I am today is the backbone of my blog. I write this in order (mostly) because otherwise I would miss parts. But I often post other events, more recent adventures, and then link them in as I reach them in my timeline of tales. This could be confusing, for sure, so I’m trying to make it as easy as possible to read my stories in order, while also giving the space to run free with random kinky ramblings.

Perhaps my opinion is more clear than I thought. It seems that I enjoy having an order, so long as I can flit around in amongst that. This definitely mirrors the way my brain works. Sometimes I like rpedictable, other times I want to mix things up.

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What are YOUR happy places, hmmm?

It’s easy to say my happy place is Dartmoor, but really that does everywhere else a disservice. Reading Mrs Fever’s post made me really think about my specific happy spots…

My favourite place to sleep…

is in my sleeping bag, on a rollmat in a tent. I never sleep better than when I’m under canvas, listening to the weather which is so close and yet so distant. When it’s raining or moderately windy is my favourite. The weather battered fabric shelter creates a lullaby which gives me deep sleep and beautiful dreams.

My favourite place to dine outdoors…

is around a campfire. I do love a camping stove for quickness, or a BBQ for cooking-specific heat, but more than either is when I have a firepit when on a camping holiday. There is something really special about cooking on a log fire, and then sitting around it, under the stars, while warming from the inside out. For snacks, or specifically a flask of tea and some cake, any rocky outcrop on Dartmoor which makes a nice seat to rest my weary limbs during a days walk.

My favourite place to hike…

is Dartmoor. Yes, I love the coast too, but that tends to be steeply up, followed by steeply down and the moors, while occasionally brutal, has a more undulating nature to its elevation. Plus, I am trying to visit all of the tors to introduce you to them for my tits out tor bagging campaign.

My favourite place to read….

is the bench in my courtyard. It is a quiet space, not overlooked. In the afternoon it becomes a suntrap, the wall shelters me from prying eyes of neighbours. At night the dark sky opens up and the constellations can be tracked through the seasons. So long as I’m not too engrossed in whatever book I’m reading! My current read is broken up into short chapters so lots of opportunity to glance up and out at the heavens.

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What is quintessential to you?

According to Merriam Webster quintessential is “perfectly typical or representative of a particular kind of person or thing”. I’m on a steep learning curve at the moment. I set the bar high for myself across the board, but cut others a little slack to behave in whatever way they need, while also letting them take up space in my world.

Mostly this is fine, and I have boundaries in place to enable a friendship to continue. However, the frustration grows the more I learn values are vital for me, and what I would like to see in the people who I allow to stay in my world. After all, why should I free up space for those who do not uphold my core values? Well, firstly I have to understand what those are, and then I can raise my bar of expectations for those around me.

What is quintessential to me…?

Honesty; integrity; respectful; kind- even when being honest; curiosity; non-judgemental; open-minded; self-awareness; having a sense of adventure and fun; independent; tenacious; a willingness to feel all the feelings and learn from them.

It’s not a long list really, and some are less important for others than they are for myself. I’m perfectly happy to hold myself to account for these standards. Now I need to remember to curate my

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