BDSM is a game #SinfulSunday

 

A game
Photo credit: Urbstract Photography Rigger: Angel666

I think it’s important to remember that BDSM is a game.

The game and the rules are decided by the players: clothes to be worn, places to touch, injuries to avoid.

But games should always be fun…

Even if it’s the kind of game that leaves you bound, broken and abandoned on the stairs of a derelict cottage.

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    1. I was talking to a friend today about kink. We are coming at it from different angles. I think this analogy helped her, I thought it might help others too.

      It’s tricky being a grown up, isn’t it?

      1. Adulting is always tricky, but you do seem to have a pretty good grasp! And your view of kink and self worth is still something I find admirable.
        I’d love to hear about the other ‘angle’, if it didn’t break confidence of course.

        1. Thank you. ☺️ I try!

          We were discussing various different forms of play. Her experience has been always sexual. Impact and sex. Humiliation and sex. Bondage and sex.
          Mine is somewhat different. I have learnt and experienced platonic intimacy. Play partners, for me, does not (necessarily) mean lover. For me there is pleasure to be had through all angles of play, not just sexually.

          How is that possible? Where does the pleasure come from for those involved? How can platonic intimacy work really?

          She is a wonderful woman, finding her way in this crazy world. Her questioning gives me food for thought and our discussions encourage me to go back through my experiences and reflect. If someone had asked me about intimacy two years ago I would have equated it as purely sexual. Play partners, yup, they would be sexual too. But they aren’t (necessarily) We aren’t living by a standard set of rules.

          I have a friend who comes round and we play with candles, we aren’t lovers though. Another friend shares my love of rope and dartmoor. Then there is my latex lover. And my sadistic friend. We each have our own dynamic, our own set of rules that we play by.

          I’m rambling now. It’s a very interesting thing to me. One which will resurface again and again over time I imagine. 😉

          1. This is very much how I see things as well. I don’t play outside of my marriage but hypothetically if I did I don’t imagine sex would be involved, that’s not how I feel it in my thoughts anyway. I’ve always imagined that if something happened and I found myself alone any venture into BDSM would be nonsexual, so I get what you’re saying. 😀 Thank you for explaining, your friend is lucky to have you!!

          2. I definitely believe sex is important, but those needs have gone on vacation for a while. The connection is vital!

            I’m lucky to have her. We challenge each other to think deeper.

            And you all get to meet her soon (ish.) if I ever get back to my story rather than “just” musing on life. ☺️

    1. This is the picture I promised when I shared my filthy foot for the January prompt week. ☺️ I love the images we created there.

    1. The photo was part of a day of exploring. Angel had never tied me away from a rope event, but we had wanted to explore quick and dirty ties with a dark twist. Urbstract had a few places for us to visit but this was the one that sparked all of our imaginations. We had so much fun getting twisted. 😉 We have tentative plans to get out again soon-ish.

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